When you forgive you partner at night don’t warm it up for breakfast.. When you forgive truly forgive let it go. Resentment is like a cancer and slowly eats away at the person physically and slowly eats away at the relationship. So let it go Truly forgive. The best way to defuse an argument is to be quiet and find some truth to what your partner is saying. Put the argument at rest before the sun goes down and let it stay at rest the following day.